1. Love yourself
It sounds silly when you say it like that, but it all starts there. You can keep hating each other or you can keep finding yourself some kind of person, right. But it doesn't matter. So the first step is to say: "Come on, let's go, today I'm learning to love myself." And who cares, whether you've just started dieting or you've already lost 20 kilos. It's never too early or too late to start.
2. A compliment a day… keeps the sadness away
Yes, there are days when you don't really feel like Beyoncé. We have sad hair, a dull complexion, bad sleep, it doesn't matter. On those days, even more than on any other day, you have to make the effort to find ONE thing that you like at home. It could be anything. And you formulate it, clearly. "I look great in this dress, it's crazy!" "I particularly succeeded in my eyeliner line, it looks like Bambi", "this hairstyle in three strokes of the comb? That's it, I'm Franck Provost, that's for sure." And keep it in mind all day long. And when it doesn't fit... think about it even harder.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
"She is thinner", "her thighs don't touch and she has abs", "he has more muscles than me"... No, but it's over, yes?! The people you compare yourself to... are not you. They don't have the same lifestyle, not the same metabolism, not the same sports routine, not the same diet, not the same goals, not the same age... They are not you. So you can admire their bodies, and ask for advice. But being jealous? HELL NO.
If we tell you "what's better between a trampoline and ice skates", what do you tell us? That, even if both are sports equipment... they have nothing to do with each other. They are not for the same thing, and there is not one better than the other. It's the same with other people's bodies. It's roughly the same basic function (gender, living), but everything else differs. So give yourself the means to reach YOUR goals, set goals for YOUR body... but stop considering other people's bodies!
4. Move again and again
We don't know if you've noticed, but you feel MUCH better when you're active, when you do something with your day. It's mostly because the body needs it: it likes to move (even if you're a little lazy and you stay in bed). So, the more active you are (and it can be sport, a good walk in the woods or 20 minutes of dancing in your living room on the last Rihanna, I don't care!), the more serotonin you secrete, the molecule of happiness. So whenever you feel like having a good time in a corner (and we all do, me first), go for a walk! Jump, move! We make the blood circulate, we wake up the muscles, in short, we stop being a vegetable and start being human, a little!
5. Pamper yourself
No matter what you think of your body, it is THE ONLY one you have. And you're not going to change it along the way, so that means it's there, and yours, for a while. Not only is it yours, but it's the only thing you actually have, actually. We can take your house and your car, but we can't take your body. It's also something your parents made. Overall, you love your parents, so you're not going to leave something behind that they've spent some time doing and watching grow. So what do we do about it? We TAKE CARE of it. We take a little trip to the hairdresser, we put on moisturizer, we take the time to choose our shirt in the morning. You don't have to have a mani-pedi every week, but just taking some time for yourself, to pamper yourself or to be pampered, it's a good way to refocus on yourself. Life is stressful, and your body may not be exactly what you want it to be. BUT that's no reason to deprive yourself of simple pleasures that make you feel better and do your body good. Enjoy, relax.
6. Congratulate yourself out loud on each success
You have the right to be proud of yourself. Especially if you accomplish things you didn't think you were capable of. Recognize it, and congratulate yourself! If you don't, no one else may do it for you. Celebrate every little victory. You can do a little dance, a wink in the mirror, whatever! Just be sure to acknowledge your progress. It allows you to make small "check points", instead of always chasing a long term goal.